I was always that kind of girl.
they don’t make dresses any whiter than
I am not Demeter’s daughter.
I am Heisenberg’s ripe tomato
I am Niels Bohr’s piece on the side.
In the winter I am a particle.
In the summer I am a wave.
And I didn’t get to be queen of hell
by letting folks off easy.
I use ‘Sir’ and ‘Ma’am’ as Honorifics. For instance, we called my very feminine TKD teacher ‘Sir’, and she very firmly id’s as female. but that is a very interesting point you bring up. There needs to be more honorifics for other genders.
I mean I’m comfortable with either honorific on a personal level. But on a larger scheme it is a problem, especially for nonbinary folks.
The Magical Land Where Bisexuals Don’t Exist
Authors of queer fiction, we need to have a talk. Some of you seem to think that you’re writing realistic contemporary fiction, but I’m here to tell you that many of you are actually writing fantasy.
See, the problem is setting. You all seem to set your fiction in a world a lot like our own world, but with one key subtle difference: the setting is a magical land where the word ‘bisexual’ doesn’t exist.
It’s not merely that characters do not call themselves bi. In this wacky world, NO ONE ever thinks, says, or implies the world bisexual. The concept just doesn’t exist. I’m not even talking about writing bisexual characters or even writing bisexual cliches. I’m talking about a level of bi invisibility that is both comprehensive and pervasive.
The absence of the word is particularly conspicuous in stories where characters realize they like both men and women (and it’s always men and women in these particular stories — not non-binary and/or other people under the transgender umbrella). No one ever raises the possibility of bisexuality, it’s just “gay now!” And no one acts like this glaring omission of one of the letters in the alphabet soup in queer fiction of all places is strange in the slightest. Bisexuality just does not exist at all. It’s completely absent from every dictionary in that world.
That world is not our world.
If you want to write a story that takes place in our real world, remember that bisexuality exists. The word bisexual exists and ignoring it makes your story look foolish. Remember that we are the most populous letter in the LGBT+ alphabet soup. To do otherwise is profoundly biphobic and contributes to bisexual erasure. Make the word bisexual a part of your real world.
Otherwise your story is taking place in a fantasy land that might as well be full of elves and unicorns.
A man in the grocery store line today approached me and said, “Sir, when I first saw you I was extremely attracted to you, but then I noticed that you are a boy. How… I mean, why do you dress so provocatively?”
I responded, “Well, in today’s world the majority of the straight male race view women as objects, or something that belongs to them. I dress provocatively because it attracts the attention of men in a sexual and OBJECTIVE way. However, when realized that I am actually male, they often become confused, disgusted, upset or all of the above. By inflicting this minor emotional damaged upon the ego of a man raised by twisted societal gender norms, maybe, just maybe the individual will think twice before viewing another woman with an objective attitude and sense of belonging. No woman, belongs to ANYONE. Male or female, the equality of human beings needs to be a priority. It is something worth dressing up for.”
I AM NOT KIDDING. The woman behind me, the female cashier, the old lady bagging groceries and the woman in front of me who was talking on the phone STOPPED, …. and proceeded to gasp and clap. The man shook my hand, told me to have a blessed day and then said, “excuse me ladies, I need to visit my daughter.”
…. I was shaking by the time I walked out of the store.
- Elliott Alexzander
Marvleous. Absolutely marvelous.